The Power of Surrendering

April 18, 2016

 

surrender “Just as the miracle of nature effortlessly produces the beauty of its surroundings, you have been provided with and
hold the power to effortlessly attract and create YOUR desired miracles in each and every area of your life if only you will trust, surrender and “allow”
it to be so. – Chuck Danes

 

Have you every wondered why, when you try so hard and work at it constantly, that the things you want to happen most, don’t seem to come, to pass?  The frustration sets in, the doubt, confusion and perhaps even blame, all of which are blocking what you want most. I know from experience that this has happened to me on more than one occasion and it wasn’t until I decided from a lack of anything happening, to surrender and let go.  For most of my life, it seemed as though I was constantly trying to control each outcome in all aspects and arrears of my life.  From a very young age, I was left with the perception that life, in order for it to work and feel safe, had to be controlled just the way I thought it should.  I believed that if I tried and worked hard, all would come to be, from my efforts.  I felt exhausted trying to catch what I thought was suppose to be my life.   I always had this picture of what life should be for me and ironically the harder I tried, the things closest and most dear to me, were lost.  It wasn’t until I truly had a meltdown and realize it wasn’t about running after my hopes and dreams but rather taking the action towards them and then letting go of the outcome. I find myself now knowing, that whatever direction my life takes if I fill it with love, laughter, kindness and a sense of know, all will be as it should, and therein lies the peace within.

If I ever run into the situation of trying to control my outcome, I stop myself and remember that my life has become the happiest and most content when I allowed life to flow for me.  It’s not about how fast we go, or how much we have that makes life fulfilling.  It’s about the peace that you have  in yourself and the life that you give to others, of love and kindness without the presence of judgment and control that matters most.

In the Taoist way, when we come to understand that when we force an outcome we are going against the flow of life, and in doing so, we often encounter resistance, disappointment and often suffering. It often feels like we are pushing to no avail. When we surrender, we are letting go of the need to control everybody and everything around us. The need for control comes from fear; the fear of our own inability to handle what we are not ready or prepared for. There is a natural rhythm in the flow of life, and when we find it, we are able to effortlessly keep in step. Only then do we live our lives by letting go of stress, worries and fears, trusting in a power greater than ourselves.

“In pursuit of knowledge,
every day something is added.
In the practice of the Tao,
every day something is dropped.
Less and less do you need to force things,
until finally you arrive at non-action.
When nothing is done,
nothing is left undone.

True mastery can be gained
by letting things go their own way.
It can’t be gained by interfering.”

Practice

For one week repeat the following affirmation whenever you are tense and find yourself trying to control situations and people.

“I am open to allowing what needs to happen. I trust there is a greater power than myself at work in this situation. I relax and let go of my hold on it.

Resources

Dyer, Dr. Wayne. Change your Thoughts, Change your Life. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, 2007.

Lao Tzu. trans. by Stephen Mitchell. Tao Te Ching: A New English Version.

“When TOTAL SURRENDER happens, SUFFERING is removed, DUALITY is removed too.”

 

With Much Love To All

Peace of I

Anne